1) Be Resilient
Nothing speaks about a person, as does the way in which he faces adversity. Take a close look at yourself and think of all those times you were hurt by some or other problem. What was your reaction?
One of the things you respect and admire about people is watching what they do in the face of adversity.
We easily could be entering one of the more difficult periods of the century.
Would you handle things better if you have some help? What kind of help do you think would make a difference?
Try and identify all those factors that are or could prove detrimental to your taking successful steps towards achieving your goal. More importantly, be better prepared for similar adversities. The better prepared you are for handling problems, the easier it will be for you to deal with them and overcome them.
There are three things that will cause you pain in your life:
a) Other people will say bad things about you and do bad things to you.
b) Random bad stuff happens in life.
c) You could easily cause your own problems.
Prepare now for all three!
2) Be a Tracker
How would you know where exactly you stand in terms of achieving your goals if you do not keep track of your successes and failures.
Failing is a good thing, by the way…Really…it means that you attempted full out and simply couldn’t jump the canyon.
Make a schedule and project list and keep recording your progress compared to this schedule. Keep a journal and record what you managed, what you missed, why you missed and what you are going to do about it.
Feel free to write any other thoughts that you are having related to that goal, feedback that you have received or just some encouraging words to yourself.
I like seeing hand written journals because they never go down with the computer….
3) Find the Other Smart People and Hang Out with Them
Engage with people who are on a similar course and understand how they are going about achieving their outcomes.
They are probably facing the same problems as you are and you can ask them and find out what they are doing to overcome them.
If you can speak to people you can relate to or are sympathetic to you, you will be able to find tons of support and encouragement.
You will also find different perspectives, which often make even the biggest of problems seem manageable.
Be on purpose to make other people’s life better. If you do just this one thing, life is MUCH easier for you.
4) Keep Moving….Until….It’s DONE!
Life is all about learning and moving forward. As you try to reach your goals, you will learn new things. Your way of reaching your outcomes is as unique as you yourself are.
Life is also all about moving backward, then redoubling your efforts and getting back to it again.
Anyone can move when the wind is at your back.
It’s what happens when you’re walking into the wind that matters to me most.
5) Be a Vital Part of the World
Whatever may be the case, there will be hundreds like you who are trying to understand how to deal with similar problems as you had faced or at least understand ways in which they can be dealt with.
Try to help them out.
Give back to the community that had helped you and supported you as you went around trying to achieve your goals.
Here’s the deal:
Even if you do not know who is going to help or how it is going to help, make sure you spread whatever you have figured out among as many people as you can.
6) Reward Your Self When You Have Earned It
Most people indulge in self-reward far too quickly. Some people never reward themselves.
Once you have achieved a major outcome, reward yourself. Make sure the reward is significant.
Include those closest to you in your win.
Make sure you make time to reward yourself, as that is as important as having achieved the outcome itself.
7) After Scoring…. Get Back on the Field
People who get back on the field after a) they score or b) the world scores against you….ultimately *WIN* in life
Once you have finished your first set of projects, you may be tempted to kick back. That’s like swimming part way to shore.
Immediately get moving on the next projects required to meet your short and middle term needs.
You can enjoy every moment in life if you have friends and family you can share them with.
And to build healthy relationships, you should have a healthy outlook on life.
Starting with you, see how you can improve yourself and relationships that are important to you.
8) Become a Better You
Have an open and curious mind. Sometimes it’s worth being like a kid again.
Be curious about new things and ask yourself the many questions a child would. Avoid having a rigid approach or a closed mind.
Open yourself to the: What? How? Why? Who? When?
Keeping an open mind will help you see things differently than what you might have.
We all tend to filter stuff out by our current beliefs, attitudes and experiences.
Every now and then do stuff that makes you uncomfortable because it is unfamiliar.
Do that and you WILL become a better you.
9) Figure Out Who You Are and Who You Want TO BE
Define your values and principles. What are the things that you value most in your life? What bugs you the most? What causes you the most pleasure and what is at the root of the most hurt?
These questions and the answers to these will make you aware of who you are and how you are living in this world.
Go through all your answers and see which ones surprise you and which don’t.
Is there anything you can do to make experiences and events cause you less frustration?
Think of possible solutions and work on them.
Discipline yourself to always stick to your values and principles, regardless of their consequences.
People are attracted to authentic people with integrity. Become consistent.
10) Be UP for Change
Be up, ready and prepared to change.
You may want to have a better life; you may even have worked hard on your plan to achieve in life.
There are ALWAYS *comfort sacrifices* when you evolve as a person.
Have what it takes to make those *comfort sacrifices*
Mentally prepare yourself for the compromises that you will make if you are aiming for better outcomes in your life.
11) Respect Your Self BECAUSE of 1-10 Above
People who do 1-10 are worthy of admiration, adoration and love.
As you move through life, respect others, respect yourself.
They SHOULD feel the same. (They won’t at first!)
12) Say, “Good Job!”
This one is for me. In the movie Hancock, he has to learn how to say “Good Job!”
Sometimes I simply assume people will do X because it was obvious and was what needed to be done.
Good job, lets the other person know…that YOU recognized their latent intelligence.
Trust me on this one…
Print the 12 out and put it by your computer for say…12 days.