Take some pride in your role. Recognize your identity and revel in it. Take action to improve and nurture your attitude about being a trader.
I’ve just finished reading a book about how to have a ‘difficult conversation’…
Apparently, one of the most sure-fire ways to hurt someone’s feelings (and therefore deprive yourself of a great outcome from your negotiation) is to offend that person’s sense of identity. If they consider themselves to be strong, independent and happy, you’ll really damage them if you show that they’re a weak, needy and cranky individual.
When we’re criticized on the things we pride ourselves on, we sting.
It reaches into our soft underbelly of self worth, and twists the knife.
How fully formed is your sense of identity about being a trader?
I can tell you, my top traders know they’re traders through and through.
George Bernard Shaw said: “The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want and if they cannot find them, make them”.
You always get what you focus on. If you spend your time thinking about what you don’t like in terms of being a trader, you’re programming yourself to fail.
Stop that now!
Recommit to being a top trader. Choose what you have already chosen.