In order to change anything in our lives; we always need a powerful enough ‘why’
Without a clear reason to drive your actions, you will be unlikely to stick with it. When you get really clear about what it is that you want and why you want it, you will find it much easier to create the mindset, momentum, and commitment that you’ll need to succeed over the long term.
There’s no doubt the feeling of ‘being motivated’ may be enough to get you started. But unfortunately you can’t rely on this initial burst of motivation to sustain your efforts over the long term. When the initial excitement, energy, and motivation subsides (and it will), you are back to relying on sheer willpower to keep yourself going. And so it’s not too long before you just give up on the new habit or behaviour.
Has this ever happened to you?
While there are a number of things that will help you stay on track to achieve your goals, willpower is definitely not one of them.
So instead of willpower we want “why-power.” In order to sustain your actions, you must first create a deeper connection to what you really want to achieve.
So why do you really want to (insert your goal here) right now? What are your top 5 reasons?
- I want to feel better about myself
- I want to look better to others
- I want to stop worrying about how others view me
- I want to receive more attention
- I want to improve my relationships
- I want to improve my current health and fitness
- I want to live longer
- I want to have more energy
- I want to feel more in charge of my life
- I want to feel more self-confident
- I want to stop saying negative things to myself
- I want to feel happier in social situations
- I want to do more and different kinds of activities
- I want my family to be proud of me
- I want to make more money
- I want to feel independent
- I want to be free from my job
Or maybe you have other reasons? Write them down now!
Once you have your top 5, it’s then a matter of drilling down even further. For example, if you want to feel more self-confident, then ask yourself:
Why exactly do I want to feel more self-confident?
How will having more self-confidence change my life?
What will it enable me to do?
If I had more self-confidence, how would this make me feel?
Or if a reason is to make more money, then ask:
Why exactly do I want to make more money?
How will making more money change my life?
What will it enable me to do?
How will it make me feel?
By asking yourself these more specific questions, you will be able to flesh out what’s really important to you. You’ll better identify, understand and connect with your true reasons for wanting to reach your goals. You’ve now just created your why-power, which will help sustain your efforts over the long term; especially when the going gets tough or when challenges get in your way.
There’s a lot more to creating your ‘Action Mindset’ than just establishing your why-power. But this is the very first step.
So don’t skip it.