We had a little training webinar this morning for our clients, on mindset, and one of the things we discussed was the power of taking responsibility.
This is a subject that many pay lip-service to, but in reality don’t quite grasp the concept of what it truly means.
To take responsibility means to realise that you, and only you, are to congratulate, or blame for the current state of your life.
It means that you understand that where you are in life right now is the direct result of all the choices and decisions you have made up until this point.
It means that your spouse, your parents, your kids, the government, society or any other person or thing you can think of has nothing to do with your life as it stands.
And it’s a tough thing to accept when nothing in your life is the way you want it.
“My life completely sucks and it’s all my fault.” Yep, that is a difficult thing to come to terms with.
But there’s an upside to all this…when you understand that your decisions and choices have brought you to where you are, then you understand that making different choices and decisions will take you to a different place.
Simple huh? Seems that way, but change is never comfortable, especially for those close to you who may feel threatened by your new choices. They only feel that way because it makes them realise that you are creating a better life for yourself and they are still stuck in their misery, and they would really rather keep you stuck too. Unfortunately, this is subconscious on their part and they don’t even realise they are doing it.
You need to stay strong and motivated to change. And you need to understand that you are not responsible for anyone else’s happiness or otherwise. Everyone has a choice in how they feel, whether they realise it or not. Do not let someone make you feel bad because you are changing your life for the better!
Your brain is designed to keep you out of ‘danger’ and in the comfort zone – that is why you start to doubt yourself when making life changes. But you can overcome this with perseverance and a belief that you will benefit from the changes you are making.
Commit to your new life. Don’t give yourself the options of failure.
You are responsible for your life, so make it the best you can!