Responsibility simply means that you are at cause.
It means that you complete what you say you will complete.
You accomplish what you are required or expected to do.
It is the broad brush stroke that you predictably do things because they are right.
Responsible people tend to take far more actions and perform more behaviors than irresponsible people.
That means the responsible person will make more mistakes. It also means that they will therefore make more BIG mistakes all other factors being equal.
It also means they will find reasons for their failures and mistakes when they do indeed fail. At this point they will seek correction within themselves and others and they will often be perceived as “blaming.”
This is an important benefit and socially experienced problem of being responsible.
In social settings, responsible people are often experienced as quite threatening.
They are in the minority.
They are leaders.
They point out problems, suggest correction and are seen as blaming others for problems and results.
Responsible people are not attempting to blame, of course. Blame is useless and to be reserved for media and politicians.
They simply know that they can’t experience similar errors and mistakes in the future or the number of tasks/projects that are completed successfully will eventually approach zero.
They have trained themselves by default to accomplish.
They have trained themselves to find errors and mistakes within themselves and easily see the same in others.
We live in a “blame” society where people are looking for who is at fault to highlight their failure and remove responsibility from themselves.
That’s precisely what failures do.
People who look for someone to blame never achieve much of anything of their own volition.
People who become auto-corrective in nature accomplish the most.
What’s the smartest thing you can do to encourage this trait?
Surrounding yourself with responsible people is one of the smartest things you can do for yourself.
If you are looking to “feel good” in the moment, you are much better off smoking crack with irresponsible people because responsibility requires conscious effort.
Over the long term, the responsible person will experience greater life satisfaction by far than the irresponsible. But in any given moment, it’s a coin flip.
Responsible people are conscious humans. They are the rare exception to the rule. They have no interest in making others wrong, only in getting to what is right, good, whole.
Are you currently responsible?
Here’s a simple test:
How many times were you late for work or social events you agreed to arrive at a specific time in the last month?
More than once means that the individual is probably not conscious and accomplishment and income will typically reflect that fact.
Irresponsible people are generally seen as “low stress” people because they don’t think about completing projects on time, if at all.
They typically don’t worry about the feelings of others and thus have no real sense of self respect.
Why Demanding Responsibility Is Important in Winners
Being responsible for your actions will put you on the path to becoming a winner.
Taking responsibility and following through on your convictions can be a tough path to follow.
People will still blame you for things but you’ll be far ahead of them.
You’ll already have corrected most things you screwed up long before people can effectively blame you for something.
You may be met with roadblocks and people who tell you that things are not going to work out, the way you think they will.
Instead of yielding to these people and problems, a responsible person will just keep moving forward.
Everyone faces challenges and it is the way you accept and conquer these challenges which will cause you to become a responsible person.
Always keep the following in mind:
When your life is not going the way you had hoped it to, you are the only person who is ULTIMATLEY responsible for making things better.
Responsible people are relentless in their pursuit of self and other respect whether they are thinking about the fact or not.
If you have a tough decision to make and have been putting it off, do you think it might be time to take responsibility and make that decision and follow through with the actions & consequences?
Responsible people LIVE this mindset.
Winners make decisions.
Winners fail far more often than losers.
Winners make far more bad choices in total number than losers.
But the percentage of choices that are good is greater and the percentage of actions they take that are effective is much larger.
They constantly find what didn’t work perfectly, even in other people.
They constantly try and make the mind or machine perform at a greater level.
No Olympian wins without being wrong thousands of time. No Super Bowl champ gets there by luck. No successful author succeeds because of random chance.
Luck is involved only to the extent of the number of attempts and the magnitude of the attempts made for which luck can play a role.
Thus, someone who takes on 10 times as many projects or does 10 times as many bench presses, is going to be about 10 times more likely to have a lucky moment, than those who don’t.
The responsible person decides to take action and do whatever necessary to get the job done.
Self Examination for Winning with Responsibility
For the most part – you are mostly responsible for your own life. You may have friends and family that help share the burden with you, but at the end of the day you most often control your outcomes.
Yes, bad things happen to bad people.
In fact bad things happen all the time, predictably and often enough to write the headline in advance.
So please DO and then carry on.
Predict that others will screw up. Don’t expect this from any one individual but simply that in general people won’t come through with what they say they will.
Emerson didn’t call it “Other” Reliance!
Never assume that someone else will make you a winner.
Winners are rare because winning requires EFFORT!
Responsibility simply means that you are at cause.